Balance is an Internal Process
There’s no question making it safely from one day to the next is a little like standing on top of a large resistance ball…with severe vertigo. If you manage to land on both feet with your clothes on straight, the contents of your stomach intact, and able to put a coherent sentence together at the end of the day, you’re probably one of the fortunate few.
It isn’t that the world has become populated with weaklings or dunces. The challenge lies in dodging all the land mines of newly elevated causes, the most recent atrocities, spewers of hate and discontent—in short, a world in complete disarray. And that’s even before including joblessness, online classrooms, and for many, a little too much time spent with your near and dears. Wherever you look, someone with an opinion is screaming it to the winds, filling your inbox, or plastering Social Media with what they believe is right, true, and good. And by the way, you should believe the same things.
If you ask me, it’s enough to send the gentler souls screaming for a nice, secluded mountain top cabin with no TV, internet, people, or cell service. Thankfully, most of you are strong and resilient from years of living life, even if you neither realize it, nor give yourself the credit you deserve.
It’s a Mad, Mad World Out There
Imagine the most insane roller coaster you’ve ever seen (or maybe even ridden). Now take away the restraining bar and safety equipment, and run every part that turns you upside down or sideways over a giant chasm, like perhaps the Grand Canyon…in the dark. You’ve never ridden the thing before. You don’t know what’s coming, or even what might fly by and smack you mid-loop, and no one has posted a selfie or any kind of review of this demonic contraption to give you any warnings. Oh, and by the way, everyone gets their own personal version, so no two people experience the same ride.
Are you getting nauseous yet? There’s more. A screen in front of you flashes an endless stream of horrific videos accompanied by screams of agony, and voices that taunt and cajole in equal measure. The speed of the vehicle forces you back into the seat where you can’t move or even avert your eyes, and headphones clamped to your ears make avoiding the voices impossible.
This might sound a little extreme, but not so far off from how we’re inundated lately. Sure, we have the option of turning off the TV, radio, or social media, which believe me, is a huge blessing. But friends, acquaintances, and family will bend your ear with their version of what’s important, and their beliefs which may or may not agree with yours. They’ll vent their anger at the “other guys”, whoever that might be.
Just writing this is making my head spin, so I can only imagine what’s happening to yours. The question is, how do you get off the roller coaster, even for a minute or two to get your bearings before you have to charge in and fend off the next ogre attack?
Getting Off the Roller Coaster
The good news is, it can be done, but you have to make a conscious decision to leave Social Media, and Mass Media like TV and radio, and go someplace quiet, even if it’s only in your own head. Without taking time out to de-stress and recharge, the chances of making it through too many more days with sanity intact are questionable.
I know you probably have a To Do list a mile long right now. I also know you’ll get through it more quickly and with a whole lot less stress and strain if you add time for yourself. It doesn’t matter what you use that time for, as long as it’s yours and yours alone. I’ll give you some examples, but you are the only one who knows what takes you out of overload and lets your battery recharge.
- Walking in nature
- Creating art
- Taking a drive
- Spending time with pets
- Learning something new
Find Your Own Version of Calm Amidst the Chaos
You can see it isn’t necessarily about sitting quietly, trying to silence monkey mind while chanting “OM”. I can tell you from experience, quieting the mind is by far one of the hardest things to do right now. Even though I meditate every day, and have my little purr buddies there to help, thoughts creep in and interrupt my peace. I’m plagued by everything from something I read recently to a new story idea, to what I’m going to make for dinner. And that’s on a good day!
Sometimes, what you need is something that occupies your mind so completely, it blocks out everything else. Again, only you know what works for you. If you have an ADD brain like I do, it’s even more of a challenge since the mind can go in 17 directions at once and still have room to chew on one of those stressors I mentioned. At that point, you have to learn what will block out the insanity for a few minutes…hours….days. Like migraine triggers, that varies from one person to another too.
My intention, however, isn’t to make this so overwhelming you give it up as a lost cause. Like anything else, start slow. Give yourself five minutes to decompress and let go of all responsibilities. Sit in a comfortable chair, on a blanket on the grass, on the floor, on the bed, or wherever you can grab some alone time. Feel all the places in your body that respond when you breathe slowly in, then slowly out.
You Can Decline the Invitation to Insanity
Don’t worry about thoughts floating through your head while you breathe. You can’t keep them out, especially at first. The point here is not to stop thinking, but to allow yourself the luxury of not reacting, even if it’s only for five minutes. As time goes on, you’ll be able to do it longer, until eventually, even the most hellacious of events, stories, or people won’t shake you enough to throw your world into another tizzy.
All the chaos right now is intended to make everyone react emotionally instead of responding intelligently. It’s your job to learn the difference, and allow yourself what may only be a split second to shift gears so you don’t buy into anyone else’s drama. I’ve learned from experience that I have enough drama in my own life without accepting invitations to everyone else’s.
They don’t really need me to play a part in their story anyway, and frankly, I’d rather call my own shots, and not have someone feeding me lines and business. You, too can decline those invitations, take a step back, and decide how you feel about whatever the cause or crisis du jour might be. Then add your voice to the cacophony if you choose, but know that you do have the choice, and your life will be less chaotic if you exercise that choice intelligently, and often.
Using Gratitude to Silence the Crazed Mob
My gratitudes today area:
- I’m grateful I can tune the entire world out at will these days.
- I’m grateful for my own routines and lifestyle which keep me out of the mainstream chaos.
- I’m grateful for opportunities to speak my mind when, and only when I feel it is worth engaging, and it will make a difference.
- I’m grateful for friends who can remain civil and respectful when presented with differing beliefs and opinions. When the dust clears, opposites may again be on the same page.
- I’m grateful for abundance; joy, friendship, love, harmony, differences, conversations, respect, down time, peace, health, balance, philanthropy, and prosperity.
Love and Light
About the Author
Sheri Conaway is a Holistic Ghostwriter, and an advocate for cats and mental health. Sheri believes in the Laws of Attraction, but only if you are a participant rather than just an observer. Her mission is to Make Vulnerable Beautiful and help entrepreneurs touch the souls of their readers and clients so they can increase their impact and their income.
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