Monitor Your Energy Levels Regularly
You’re an energetic being, first and foremost, yet all too often, you’re giving your energy away, and forgetting to replenish it. You find it exhausting to do the simplest of things, but don’t understand why. Sometimes, depression sets in when the business of life becomes one, long, uphill climb.
Most of the time, you give it freely, and to people who truly need help. Every so often, you encounter what I call energy vampires who suck you dry, sometimes with your knowledge and approval, but often surreptitiously. In some cases, it’s even someone you thought you knew, and could trust.
Energy vampires are becoming more cunning as Empaths and other energetic, compassionate beings learn to communicate with others, and educate themselves so they can minimize energy drains and protect themselves from burnout. Some are unbelievably patient and tenacious, even willing to invest a large amount of time earning your trust before launching their subtle, intricately devised plan to suck you dry.
Pay Attention to Energy Leaks
Admittedly, even with all the experience I’ve had with broken trust, I occasionally drop my guard, and trust too easily and quickly in certain situations. I may be on alert with strangers, but not so much with people who’ve been in my life for years. I have to keep reminding myself my gut doesn’t lie. If something feels off, I need to figure out what it is before my energy is siphoned off without my knowledge or consent. I need to take note when I’m feeling unusually exhausted despite getting plenty of sleep.
In the first place, sleep isn’t necessarily rest, no matter how deeply I might be sleeping. My dreams will often tell such vivid, insistent stories that instead of restoring energy, they’re depleting it further, and will continue to do so until I locate the true source of my energy leak. Sometimes it’s as simple as needing my own space; my particular level of openness, my own bed, and my cats. Other times, I need to find the source, or remove myself from a situation entirely.
Learning from Each Experience
Recently, I had an experience where I was away from home, and woke up one morning knowing
without a shadow of a doubt I had to leave, and to leave immediately. The feeling was so urgent, I hit the road with a cup of coffee, a bottle of water, and a few slices of cheese I didn’t even think I’d want. I did end up nibbling on a couple of pieces, more because I knew I needed energy than from hunger.
When I got home, I was still highly agitated, and had to unpack and put everything away before I could even fix something to eat, much less sit down and relax. For the next week, my sleep pattern was turned upside down. I was staying up until 3 or 4 in the morning every night, and sleeping until 10 or 11 the next morning. Thankfully, experience had taught me not to fight it. My body was slowly restoring it’s energy, and needed to do so at it’s own pace, and in it’s own manner.
Familiar surroundings and routines allowed me to look back and locate the source of my energy drain, or at least a large part of it. The source and intensity were what came as an enormous, unpleasant surprise, making it harder to regain my equilibrium and address the problem rationally rather than emotionally.
Naturally, my first reaction was anger, both because I felt attacked, and because I’d allowed myself to miss all the signs over the years. Clearly, if I’d been paying attention, I’d have put protections in place long ago. But this energy vampire was a breed I hadn’t encountered, so I had nothing in my personal arsenal to either shield, or protect myself from the sudden, vicious attack to my energetic self.
Focus on Resilience, Not Perfection
It’s experiences like these which have given me the armor I amassed over the years, but this one taught me I still have a great deal to learn, and that as I get smarter, so do those who seek to tap into my energy field, and to take advantage of Empaths in general for what we too often give away without question.
Giving, helping, healing. They’re all part and parcel of an Empath’s or other sensitive person’s nature. It’s only through painful experience you learn to be more discerning, and to hold back until you are convinced the protections you have in place are sufficient for the situation you’re in. Yet time after time, you get blindsided because greed doesn’t take a holiday. You’re learning to recognize energy vampires, and others who’ll abuse your trust, but those who thrive by draining other peoples’ energy don’t stop learning either.
Each time you succumb, you’ll promise yourself you won’t get fooled again, but as much as you need to recharge regularly, the energy vampire needs to drain you and others like you. They don’t know how to recharge themselves, and must depend on the naive, the unsuspecting, and the unwilling to fulfill their needs. Sadly, they don’t lack for victims and flit from one to another like a bee to flowers. Which flower doesn’t matter to them as long as it yields the desired sustenance.
Support Yourself to Support Others
But why are they willing to take the time to cultivate some while ignoring others? What qualities lead them to believe the reward will be worth the effort, and the patience? Who or what is meeting their energy needs while they wait?
They’re questions I’ve yet to figure out, though I’ve fallen for the scams more than once in this lifetime. At times, I’m only collateral damage, and am doubly frustrated because someone I care for was the primary target, and there’s nothing I can do to support or protect them. The truth is, the best you can do is support and protect ourselves, learning from each painful lesson, and holding space in support of others who are healing from lessons of their own.
You can’t support others unless you’re healthy and strong yourself, which makes it doubly important to not only learn to recognize when your energy is low, but establish regular and consistent practices to restore and recharge.
I can’t stress enough how important it is to make time for yourself; to meditate, garden, cook, sew, or anything you can do alone that brings you peace. The key is to remove yourself from anyone and anything that drains you so you can refill your own well of energy in your own space and time. Only then can you follow your natural inclination to love, support, and heal.
Grateful for All Lessons That Come My Way
My gratitudes today are:
- I’m grateful for the lessons I’ve learned, and the tests my trust has endured. They all temper the original being I was, making me both strong and resilient.
- I’m grateful for friends and family who understand my need for regular solitude.
- I’m grateful for healthy practices that allow me to recharge and restore my own well of energy.
- I’m grateful for the lessons I’ve learned that have taught me how to protect my own energy. I may still have a lot to learn, but I’m no longer a free-flowing source for anyone who comes along.
- I’m grateful for abundance; love, joy, friendship, lessons, change, experience, peace, balance, health, harmony, philanthropy, and prosperity.
About the Author
Sheri Conaway is a Holistic Ghostwriter, and an advocate for cats and mental health. Sheri believes in the Laws of Attraction, but only if you are a participant rather than just an observer. Her mission is to Make Vulnerable Beautiful and help entrepreneurs touch the souls of their readers and clients so they can increase their impact and their income.
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