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Showing Yourself Gratitude: Who Knew?

Start Your Gratitude List With You

There’s a lot of hoopla and hype about gratitude these days, and for good reason. You’re grateful for things that make you happy, so focusing on gratitude means you’re putting your attention on things that make you happy. The more you focus on things that make you happy, the less you notice the ones that don’t.

It follows that as you’re busy focusing on things that make you happy, you begin to see only the ones that make you happy, and pretty soon, you see more of them. You can call it Laws of Attraction, or simply a shift in perspective. Either way, you start hard-wiring yourself for happiness and positivity.

But with all the time and effort you put into gratitude, what do you show appreciation for most of the time? If you’re like me, it’s probably things outside yourself; a beautiful day, a great parking spot, a safe drive to work, beautiful flowers in your garden. How often do you look in the mirror and say “I’m grateful for me?”

Your Are the Most Important Person in Your Life

Yet, who or what is more important and deserving of your gratitude? Why don’t https://www.flickr.com/photos/chrishuggins/4675505957/in/photolist-88ac2F-8LnEVQ-r3ZSnA-rkryn2-dEHqQa-buZGL5-9NXU2Q-uQd4Gi-8HtvkK-brtvSa-mc16EB-zKaXu-mayYKi-LpBQx-24Q2uC3-5fjkkg-eJzqz-di4zr7-di4Cts-9d5Zj3-9SKTfn-FCdjdz-f5wwhN-XjXzMf-9P5vA2-kVMXd9-47aeuC-zNAvV-dZ5cLv-5P5kRq-5z3cp5-7fRw8n-Ad6nP2-fjj4VF-nPSwLg-GUXa92-ERVZat-YW3tj5-sgc13A-xYkggi-SwjMJA-K74gKR-qod9ho-evhnbP-5mpBv5-v38BL4-26QXWnW-nCnBUo-JSkWR-88acaPyou take a deep breath and say “thank you for my lungs”? What stops you from pausing to listen to the steady beat in your chest and say “thank you for the heart keeping a steady rhythm inside me”?

If focusing on things that make you grateful attracts more happiness-inducing stuff, wouldn’t showing appreciation for our health attract more health? How about things like losing weight, or increasing your strength? Wouldn’t those things benefit from a little gratitude and positive energy too?

So many of my friends complain they can’t lose weight. They talk about how they lose a couple of pounds but it always comes back. How about if instead, on the days when the numbers on the scale decrease, you say “thank you for the pound I’ve released”. On the days when it goes the other way, either say nothing, or find some aspect to be grateful for anyway. I, for one am going to give it a try, and will share my progress over the next month or so. What do I have to lose, except those pounds which are slowing me down anyway?

Rerouting the Complain Train

https://www.flickr.com/photos/35661951@N05/3301911347/in/photolist-62MacZ-8Xg8JJ-99EED2-6ukkey-99cpQj-K3PSrh-hFEZv-eevrK7-4ET5Ga-eirkqh-4QxafM-5thv2Z-7D9KW6-77wGJ5-eeonnH-aDN8j3-kbDBEA-8B6bHZ-2GsUh2-5gqAf-cyMRGU-5tUx72-oVs2Rk-9RuAeo-eevDx5-GywZT9-cyMwjW-pmZbM-h3P17c-3cBFP2-eevzuC-q8iZiZ-5TsVGN-aDN3D9-WrrMWj-7x9jR6-j1kqp-gEroQ-cQ6Pt5-4sNRtz-nkKGAk-GywYMb-GywZYj-JCRyYq-9utXaK-7YriHP-6WDWPK-bjM3J7-FFmjJG-2NLBMLet’s not stop there. What else do you typically complain about? Not enough money? Too little work? Too much work? Increasing costs? Unfair treatment? How can you flip those so you’re showing appreciation instead of complaining?

How about:

I’m grateful I have enough money to pay my rent/mortgage.

I’m grateful I have some free time to do things for myself.

I’m grateful I have plenty of work as it makes the day go quickly. I have enough money for a vacation or maybe a massage.

I’m grateful I have options when my cost of living goes up.

I’m grateful for people who show me how I don’t deserve to be treated, and I’m grateful I can walk away from them and towards my friends who treat me right.

How Can You Flip Your Own Life?

These are a few examples, but with a little effort, you can find your own, as long as you focus on your own assets and qualities. When push comes to shove, who is your strongest advocate? Your greatest asset? The one person you can count on no matter what? Yet who is also the last person you think to thank?

Your heart allows you to live, pumping blood through your system to feed all your cells. Your lungs bring air into your lungs, oxygenating your blood and keeping you from suffocating. Your legs lift you from a chair, get you out of bed, help you run, skip, or dance. Your arms let you give and receive hugs.

But if you’re like me, it never occurs to you to thank your body, your mind, or yourself for the qualities and abilities that allow you to enjoy all the outside things making you happy.

Years ago I had a mantra I’d use in the morning to get my day started on the right foot. I’d look in the mirror and say: You’re beautiful, sexy, sassy, and delicious. It always brought a smile to my face which meant, no matter what happened during the day, I at least began with a smile.

Instead of a goofy mantra, let’s start the day with a deeply personal gratitude. I can use things like:

I’m grateful for my brain which never lacks for ideas when I sit down to write.

I’m grateful for my legs which carry me across a dance floor as often as I like.

I’m grateful for my heart. In fact, I LOVE my heart for pumping blood through my body, but also for being the source and repository for love.. 

I’m grateful for my hands with which I type the words my brain sends, but with which I also pet my cats, or touch a friend.

Gratitude Equals Love

To me, gratitude is another way of saying “I love you” I don’t know anyone who couldn’t use more love, and though what we get from others is marvelous, what you give to yourself is both limitless and powerful. You can change your mood with gratitude, uplifting when you were despondent. Imagine how much higher you’d fly if the gratitude you expressed was for yourself, your body, your mind, your actions, your—Presence!

So next time you feel compelled to express gratitude, start your list with things you’re grateful for that come from within. And when you’ve done so for a week, a month, maybe more, come back and share how it impacted your life. After all, success stories always inspire others.

Where Do You Need Help?

None of us has to walk our path alone. Where are you struggling to keep it all together? Maybe all you need is a sounding board? Perhaps, just a listening ear? Or would you like to take a task or two off your plate? Is it content creation, or perhaps it’s getting your books in order and creating a budget. If this sounds familiar and you’re ready to streamline your life, ask for help instead of trying to do it all, CONTACT ME and let’s talk!

Showing a Little Gratitude for Me!

My gratitudes today are:

  1. I am grateful for the woman I’ve become from the challenges I’ve overcome and the lessons I’ve learned.
  2. I’m grateful for my motivation which compels me to keep trying even when all indications say I should quit.
  3. I’m grateful for my heart; for the life blood it pumps, and for it’s capacity for love and compassion, not only for others, but for myself.
  4. I’m grateful for positvity. It took awhile to learn, but I’ve come to appreciate how much easier it’s become the more I practice.
  5. I’m grateful for abundance; friendship, love, joy, energy, compassion, inspiration, opportunities, health, strength, peace, harmony, connections, support, community, philanthropy, and prosperity for all.

Love and Light

 

About the Author

Sheri Conaway is a writer, blogger, ghostwriter, and advocate for cats. Sheri believes in the Laws of Attraction, but only if you are a participant rather than just an observer. Her mission is to Make Vulnerable Beautiful and help entrepreneurs touch the souls of their readers and clients so they can increase their impact and their income. If you’d like to have her write for you, please visit her Hire Me page for more information. You can also find her on Facebook Sheri Levenstein-Conaway Author or in her new group, Putting Your Whole Heart Forward

10 Things I’ve Learned by Meditating

There’s More to a Meditation than Meets the Eye

I’ve included meditation in my daily routine for several years now. I try to do an hour a day, sitting quietly in my living room, but it doesn’t always work out that way. Sometimes, I meditate on the dance floor. Others, I meditate while doing my morning stretches. I have even been known to meditate while grocery shopping.

It doesn’t really matter where you meditate or what you’re doing. The trick is to just quiet your mind and allow. Of course, when people hear “quiet your mind” they think you mean turn your brain off. We all know that’s impossible. What it means is to let the thoughts flow without analyzing or judging. In short, you just allow.

I get a lot of ideas from my meditations including both the title and main idea for my latest NaNoWriMo. But I realized today it’s much more than that, So without further ado, here are the 10 things (or should I say 10 of the things) I’ve learned by meditating.

  1. It’s the perfect place to work on forgiving yourself.
  2.  There is no wrong way to meditate.
  3.  A To Do list isn’t just to keep track of tasks I need to do. It’s also a way to show myself how much I actually accomplish even on days I consider lazy.
  4.  You can never have too many accountability partners.
  5.  If you don’t understand a message you receive while meditating, it will come again in a different way and will continue to do so until you get the message and act on it.
  6.  You can change your entire attitude by meditating.
  7.  For cats, meditation is a group sport.
  8.  No matter how frustrating your day might be, meditation will help put things back in perspective.
  9.  You can’t beat yourself up while meditating.
  10.  If you receive a message during meditation which shows you rearranging furniture, don’t ignore it. You won’t be able to settle down, sleep or even enjoy a movie until you do.
Meditation for your Health

Even if I’m pressed for time, I’ve learned to take as little as five minutes out and just breathe. The overall reduction in stress is huge, and even more so if performed with a purring cat on your lap. Reducing stress in any way you can improves your physical, mental, emotional and energetic health. I’m heartily in agreement with those who say it should be taught in our schools. Maybe someday it will be.


My gratitudes tonight are:
1. I am grateful for the message I received today to swap my sofa and love seat and move the cat tree.
2. I am grateful for a week which, while not as productive as I’d like, saw me getting back on track with my To Do list, MyFitnessPal and my accountability buddy. It also saw me becoming part of a mastermind group who enjoy writing about Alternative health and just plain healthy eating.
3. I am grateful that Patches is being good about taking her meds though I try not to let myself think about how lousy she must be feeling to be so calm.
4. I am grateful for a full and interesting life where new ideas and challenges come up often. I’m reinventing myself almost every week and someday I’ll even know who I am.
5. I am grateful for abundance: love, friendship, health, well-being, peace, harmony, calm in the midst of a storm, inspiration, motivation, hope, philanthropy and prosperity.

Blessed Be

November 15, 2014 A day in the life…with ADD #shericonaway

Considering a change? No problem! Let ADD help!

Getting ready for bed at around 2AM after exceeding my NaNoWriMo goal and writing a less than optimal blog post, I realized that I needed to make another change or three. Then I thought about what I would write about today in my blog. I promised myself I’d remember the topic and didn’t bother to write it down before tumbling myself into the warmth of a soft bed and snuggly cats.

This morning as I was going through my usual morning stuff and putting in my contacts, the blog topic from last night, of course, evaded me. But then I noticed that one of the cats had managed to pee outside of the potty pad I’d begun putting underneath the sand box when Patches, my old girl, started expressing her displeasure at the addition of two rowdy kittens by doing her deed over the edge of the box.

Contacts in, I started the necessary cleanup only to find that she’d managed to saturate the floor under the sand box! OK, points for creativity here! Keep in mind that in human years, this cat is about 102!

Deciding this was a job for the mop, I retrieved said implement from the garage, cleaned up the mess, and realized that the basket where I usually toss the used mop pads was still full of linens which one of my rat catching cats had found to be an even better bed than the comforter on the garage floor.

I looked at the basket and said to myself “Self, there’s no time like the present!” So saying, I took the basket into the house and proceeded to cram the contents into my overflowing linen closet where the thought occurred to me that I need to pull out all of the twin sized linens and offer them up on Freecycle. (thankfully, I didn’t act on that idea immediately!)

Returning the basket to the garage, I put the mop pad inside and chanced to glance at the dryer which still contained part of the load of clothes I’d washed earlier in the week. That darned little devil named “No time like the present” was still sitting on my shoulder, so that load, too, was pulled out, folded up and put away.

By now, my coffee was cold and my yogurt was warm, but now I remembered what I wanted to talk about today.

Change: Be careful what you wish for.

Working on my latest novel tends to wind me up even more than dancing. Picture a sugar rush that just keeps giving and giving and giving. Unfortunately, that rush does not let me settle down to write a blog post for hours! So it occurred to me that, at least while I’m working on the latest novel, and maybe on into perpetuity, I need to rethink the timing of my blog posts; that is, I need to change up my routine.

To many of you out there, the idea of revamping your tried and true (for some reason, my fingers wanted to type “tired” instead of “tried”. Want to weigh in, Mr. Freud?) routine can be nothing short of terrifying. But my ADD thrives on messing up the status quo. It’s the same routine, day after day, week after week which will drive me into the doldrums. So in the spirit of mixing things up, I’ve realized that I need to do my blog post earlier in the day instead of late at night.

I also realized why writing late at night works best for me. My mind is a little tired and is less likely to interfere with the creative process. When subconscious mind jumps in and says (quite rudely, I might add) “Move over, you anal retentive twit! It’s my turn to run the show now!” it encounters little resistance from the part of my brain that has spent most of the day solving problems or taking care of chores.

At any rate, the blog must go on, so the writing will be done when normal people are up and moving, leaving the hours between 9PM and 3AM for the creation of something wonderful and entertaining (we must keep our mind positive). One of these works of sweat and blood will be the one to launch that new career of mine which has been clamoring for attention for most of my life. Ignoring it became unbearable about a year ago, so here I sit, writing whatever comes into my head, day after day.

So what was the topic again? Oh, yes. Change. I needed to make a few again. It seems like this comes up every 2-3 months, and after I shake things up a bit, life gets better. Recent changes like a better gym routine and weekly produce boxes have resulted in more energy, feeling healthier and increased confidence. (not to mention, a freezer full of heat and eat meals)

Don’t ask “what price, change?”. Instead, ask “what profit, change?”

So many people ask what making a change will cost them in terms of time, comfort, money, well-being, or what have you. I think that’s why it’s so scary for many. To me, change means that I’m making my life better: More time, less stress, better health, more good habits, more time in the healing energy of my cats and more time to visit my daughter and grand furries. If I could offer people one piece of advice, I’d say “Change often. Look at it as an opportunity to further enhance your life. Look at the possibilities and downplay or ignore the costs.” Ok, that was a whole bunch of pieces tied together, but you get what I mean, I hope. But lest I haven’t made myself clear Change is good for you! Change makes you stronger, healthier, happier, sexier. Change eliminates boredom!

I walk through the gym where my friend Barb has made me aware of the fact that the majority of the occupants are male, and I walk proudly, head up, shoulders back, stomach tightening from all of the crunches and Pilates I’ve been doing, and I feel nothing short of amazing. All this from making a few changes.

What’s stopping you? Don’t be afraid of rapidly increasing happiness. If you find you have too much, just spread it around. Smile at everyone you see!

Happiness is a miracle drug and change is the catalyst.

My gratitudes today are:
1. I am grateful for my love of change.
2. I am grateful that I remembered my idea for today’s blog topic.
3. I am grateful for the opportunity to spread happiness.
4. I am grateful to my friends for keeping my eyes open and my spirit alert.
5. I am grateful for abundance: joy, happiness, change, energy, health, love, friendship, inspiration, motivation and prosperity.

Namaste

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