Life is A Little Sunshine, A Little Rain
Everyone looks at the world from their own perspective. Some “through a glass darkly”, others through rose-colored glasses. In general, people use a bit of both, but for the most part tend to fall somewhere in between, depending a lot, not only on past experiences, but their own perception of those experiences. The result is a combination of storm clouds and rain, sunshine and rainbows, and days when the sun might barely break through the clouds to light the way.
Like anyone else, I got knocked around by life quite a bit. I could easily have decided I was unlucky, or didn’t deserve to succeed, or any number of unpleasant scenarios. Somehow, I developed the attitude that “when one door closes, another opens”. I saw the struggles and challenges as lessons, and decided for myself that while something might seem like a setback in the moment, eventually I’d see it was for the best. I’ve never been proven wrong.
I’ve seen plenty of people who share my perspective, and many who’ve even improved on it. The results are invariably reflected in their lives; their relationships, their financial state, and their ultimate happiness. Those who see a setback as merely another roadblock, and who moan and groan about their lot in life are typically dissatisfied with what they get, regardless of how others might perceive it.
Change Your Attitude, Change Your Life
I see the differences as a combination of attitude and Laws of Attraction. If you see your life’s soup as something bitter and unappealing, nothing that happens is ever going to give you happiness and satisfaction, no matter how much you believe you deserve it. Conversely, if you look at everything you experience as part of the plan; a stepping stone to your ultimate goal so to speak, you’ll not only find pleasure and satisfaction in the small things, but you’ll find those goals, and all the new dreams you create are coming true, step by step.
Lately, I’ve been frustrated by my lack of productivity when it comes to writing. At one point, I was down to a single week’s worth of pre-scheduled blog posts. I started to pressure myself which, of course, was the wrong thing to do. There’s nothing that stifles my creativity more than pressure and a hearty dose of brow-beating. I took a few steps back and identified the real problem, but also realized I’d simply directed my energy into other projects for a little while.
Once again, I’d slipped in my commitment to myself, at least as far as sticking to my writing schedule. That didn’t mean I was accomplishing nothing. In fact, I was accomplishing a great deal.
Gettin’ By With A Little Help From My Friends
Thanks to the generosity of friends, I had both the tools, and the help to get my overgrown yard in order. The advent of sheltering in place to slow the spread of COVID meant my friend with a lawnmower was unavailable until further notice, and the weeds were quick to take over my yard. My friends had an unused lawnmower, edger, and hedge trimmer they were happy to re-home since both they and their mother had since moved to condos which required no yard work.
I also got plenty of help with the mowing, and as an added bonus, something to replace the strength training I’d had to forego since gyms are a hotbed of germs I’m not anxious to encounter right now. I had no idea wielding a weed whacker or hedge trimmer could be so hard, or so rewarding. I learned getting out in the yard, away from TV and computer was good for both my body and soul.
After a hard couple of hours hacking down, or pulling up weeds, I was less inclined to sit at the computer and knock out a blog post or two. So when my daughter mentioned she had several books by one of our favorite authors on her Kindle account, I slid easily into days of binge reading after a long, dry spell when I couldn’t find anything to hold my attention.
Change is Good for Body and Soul
Because of my more-than-a-little rose-colored glasses perspective, I see these deviations and diversions as a good thing. They’ve made my body feel healthier, have gotten me outside in the fresh air, and allowed my mind to take a break from thinking to enjoy the moment.
Reading the work of others, especially a favorite author reminds me of my own love for putting words on the page. Even if for now, it’s mostly just my blogs, the practice is what makes what I do better. It really doesn’t matter what skill I’m trying to improve. The more I do it, the better I get. I’ve even started joining our line dance instructor’s ballet classes part of the time, hoping to limber up my creaky old knees. It may be my imagination, but I believe I’m already seeing some improvement.
Something else that keeps my perspective fresh is mixing things up. It’s too easy to get into a rut when doing the same thing day in, and day out. When it comes to writing, a rut is definitely where I don’t want to be. Perhaps that’s part of the reason I’ve gotten so behind (at least from my perspective). I felt stuck, and what I was writing, or thinking about writing not only felt dull to me, but was difficult to even create. If there’s one thing I’ve learned in the years since I’ve spent major parts of my day writing is if it doesn’t flow easily, I need to walk away and get something else done. Some writers may be able to force themselves to write. I need to encourage myself; sometimes gently.
Variety Unclogs the Brain Letting Creativity Flow
I’ve mentioned before that there are times I have no topic in mind. I’ll sit down at the computer, and start typing until something comes to me. I refer to this as my “brain dump” method. There are times, though, when my brain refuses to dump. Working in the yard, or making a pot of soup, or turning my creativity to something entirely different is often the plunger that unclogs my brain. I’m still learning to apply the cure before the clog gets too settled and determined to establish a permanent residence.
The changes I’ve had to make while staying at home have brought a few challenges with them. not the least of which is how to stay physically active and limber. They’ve also created opportunities to come up with new solutions, and take advantage of what’s been there for me the whole time (like a huge yard that’s perfect for growing fruits, vegetables, and herbs, or maybe even raising chickens).
The funny thing about perspective is you can change it any time you want. Sometimes it takes a new goal, and others, perhaps a pandemic. I do know it’s not about how much you accomplish when the world crashes down around, but how much you adapt.
Finding Gratitude in Unexpected Places
My gratitudes today are:
- I’m grateful for the things that kick me out of my self-imposed ruts.
- I’m grateful for the ability to maintain a positive outlook most of the time.
- I’m grateful for new habits that have, at least temporarily replaced some of the old ones.
- I’m grateful for the things I’m learning about myself which, a few months ago I might have denied vehemently.
- I’m grateful for abundance; self-commitment, opportunities, motivation, inspiration, friendship, joy, fresh air, community, love, health, harmony, peace, philanthropy, and prosperity.
Love and Light
About the Author
Sheri Conaway is a Holistic Ghostwriter, and an advocate for cats and mental health. Sheri believes in the Laws of Attraction, but only if you are a participant rather than just an observer. Her mission is to Make Vulnerable Beautiful and help entrepreneurs touch the souls of their readers and clients so they can increase their impact and their income. If you’d like to have her write for you, please visit her Hire Me page for more information. You can also find her on Facebook Sheri Levenstein-Conaway Author or in her new group, Putting Your Whole Heart Forward