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Are You Letting Your Hot Buttons Mask What Matters?

Reacting With Your Hot Button again, the world, and especially the US is in a turmoil over a hot button. This time, the button is (for the bazillionth time) abortion. Equally predictable is the fact it masks a much more insidious agenda: women’s rights and the current administration’s continued attack on Roe vs. Wade. Make no mistake. The decision in Alabama and elsewhere is nothing less than an effort to take women’s rights back to a time when women were nothing more than chattel, and of less value than a man’s livestock.

Forget the fact that the Human Race would die out in short order without women to continue bearing children. Ignore the fact that all the culling efforts in China to select for male children has led to a serious shortage of those women to give said males a way to keep their name alive. The simple and sordid fact is, men know women have the ability and the brains to be their equal or maybe more, and they’re resorting to underhanded tactics to bring them back to their knees, barefoot and pregnant in the kitchen.

Women in Power Are Being Manipulated Too

Yet, as the decision in Alabama indicates, there are women in high places who buying into this load of hogwash because the men behind the plan know how to push the hot button called “abortion” and blow it so far out of proportion as to spread rampant lies about late-term abortions which, for the record aren’t abortions at all. They’re Births! Never mind the fact that in the words of Planned Parenthood:

Generally, in the US, abortion is an option from very early pregnancy (somewhere between 4-6 weeks, depending on where you go) until about 24 weeks. Abortions are available later than 24 weeks only in rare cases for medical reasons. (bold and italics added)

I know I’ll take some heat over this reference, but as Planned Parenthood’s primary concern is women’s health, I’m more inclined to believe them than some of the more questionable sources out there.

Fake News Again!, all too many are taking sides on the fake-news-fueled issue, failing to do their own due diligence (no real surprise there) and thinking legislation regulating what women can do with their bodies is a good thing!

Seriously! Let’s listen to science. At least the results are provable and replicable, which is more than I can say for what’s coming out of the mouths of the fanatics lately.

Still and all, people are taking to the streets, social media, and anywhere else they think they have a platform, and shouting their opinions to the hills without digging deeper into the hows and whys of the latest hornswoggling.

Manipulation Runs Rampant

Let’s look at a few possible reasons behind pressing one of our most emotion-grabbing hot buttons:

  • Who is the real power behind the throne, so to speak. In other words, who’s behind everyone jumping into an old, tired, yet still emotionally charged fray?
  • Where are the horrific pictures and videos they’re posting coming from?
  • Why do people react to words and pictures with fabricated captions instead of going back to the source to find out what those words, pictures, and videos really represent?
  • What do all of the emotionally triggered issues have in common when you trace them back to their roots?
  • What are the people behind them truly hoping to achieve?
  • How are they using fear and horror to manipulate others to act and speak instead of think?

When I was younger, I heard a suggestion to count to 10 before voicing anger. The point was, when your ire (or for that matter, any other highly charged emotion) is triggered, it’s unwise to let loose with your first reaction. As I grew older, and life got faster as a result of technology, the sentiment changed a bit, but essentially remained the same. If you want to respond to an email or call which set you off, it’s best to sleep on it before dashing off an emotionally charged tirade.

Acting Without Thinking

In this world of instant gratification, and yes, a proliferation of lemming mentality, people act out their outrage as quickly as it occurs. They don’t take a step back or look closely at what set them off to determine its validity. Their emotions are triggered and they react accordingly.

So we hate entire cultural groups for no good reason. We boycott companies because we’ve been told they mistreated someone from a group we support. Our police officers’ lives are in more danger than ever, and in some cases, they overreact as a result. After all, they’re as human as we are, even if they’re highly trained. You bombard a human with enough stimulation, most will still crack, regardless of training and extraordinary levels of control.

Missing the Point

We jump up and down about the attacks on Roe vs. Wade, the rights of women make decisions about their own bodies, and more, missing the entire point, exactly as the button pushers planned. While the shepherd sleeps, the thieves run away with the flock. Except, in this case, we are the sheep.

What rights are we giving away willingly because this game of sleight of hand has us looking in the wrong direction? What are we accepting willingly because we’re reacting with our emotions instead of thinking with our brains. We’re forgetting to ask for the whole story instead of what a bunch of scared old doddering idiots want us to know? How much of our proverbial farm are we going to give away before we wake up and start asking questions? If we ever do.

How long are we going to argue with people who don’t listen before we realize how much effort we’ve wasted, and how much ground we’ve already lost?

Taking a Pause for the Real Cause

If you ask me, it’s in our collective best interests to:

  • Count to 10, or even 100 before reacting/responding to inflammatory stories or comments.
  • Sleep on it before mounting a campaign for, against, or anything else.
  • Dig deep. See what’s behind the comments, decisions, legislation, or campaigns of anyone who raises hot issues once, or repeatedly. Lift the curtain and see what lurks behind it.

All too often, things aren’t what they seem, and few in power have anyone’s best interests at heart but their own. I hate to say it, but in many areas these days, the admonition “Trust No One” is apt and good advice to follow. There are many who, if they told me the sky was blue, I’d go outside and check. Even then, I’d probably do some research about the sky and how we perceive the color. I might even look into colors themselves and what truly constitutes “blue”.

Being a skeptic in today’s climate, even with our own reactions is probably safer, wiser, and in the long run, more efficient. It will save hours of time spent following a rut-ridden path to nowhere fast. I’m taking the position, when all else fails to say “Show me the money”. Not in the usual sense, of asking for payment, but instead, to illuminate the sources behind the stories they want us to buy into. I’ll then be able to do my own due diligence and determine whether I think that source and the information it flings can be trusted.

Questioning Everything Beats Questioning Nothing too often, when emotions are triggered, I’m already taking the position the source is suspect and fueling it’s own agenda at the expense of the greater good. Then again, I fear the greater good hasn’t been a consideration for a very long time, and it’s supporters are being forced to put their efforts into keeping their own heads above water. The masses are being left without support or representation. History has shown us that turning large groups of people loose to fend for themselves after having their basic needs (food, shelter) provided for lifetimes leads to its own set of problems, both personal and social.

Still, lack of a transitional period gives the powerful reason to point at the failures and convince themselves they’d been right to try to maintain the status quo, ignorant of less obvious basic needs like human dignity. What’s needed instead is simply transition and support rather than casting people out to sink or swim in their hideously under-prepared state. Worse still when support is withdrawn without warning or preparation.

Teaching the Masses to be Self-Supporting

It’s like kicking a baby out of the womb and telling her she must now fend for There has been no warning or preparation; no skills learned or even a basic understanding of what needs to be done. Those who ensured the masses could survive and even thrive are now mired in garbage-filled bogs, fighting for their own lives, unable to offer even a minimal amount of guidance or support.

Still, the masses think with their hot buttons, react to wildly exaggerated claims, and fight amongst themselves, just as they’re supposed to. They’re rats in a maze, changing directions with every new electrical shock. Mindlessly racing around, getting nowhere, until they collapse from exhaustion, little realizing they’re locked in an endless, unsolvable maze, dancing to someone else’s tune.

Created with CanvaIf you ask me, the world needs a pause button to give people time to catch up, breathe, stop reacting, and learn some of those critical skills so they can advocate for themselves and their peers. More, they deserve an opportunity to see the truth, and to properly dispose of all the garbage being flung. There’s still beauty and purpose underneath all the crap, but the chest-pounding, reacting, and internal fighting has to stop before we’ll see the flower pushing it’s way through the sidewalk crack.

Are you ready to give that flower space to bloom? I’ll bring the broom if you’ll grab a rake and help me clear the way.

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Start Clearing the Way With Gratitude

My gratitudes today are:

  1. I’m grateful for my community. We have people who know how to navigate the sewer of falseness, and see where we’re being manipulated rather than led. We share research, and more, support each other.
  2. I’m grateful for setbacks which teach me I’m not alone in finding those who’d hold me back for their own gain.
  3. I’m grateful for strength to weather a setback, and with the help of my friends and community, get back up and forge forward again.
  4. I’m grateful for my butt-kickers who empathize, but don’t allow me to wallow.
  5. I’m grateful for abundance: love, friendship, support, community, lessons, challenges, opportunities, healthy, peace, harmony, philanthropy, and prosperity.

Love and Light


About the Author

Sheri Conaway is a writer, blogger, ghostwriter, and advocate for cats. Sheri believes in the Laws , of Attraction, but only if you are a participant rather than just an observer. Her mission is to Make Vulnerable Beautiful and help entrepreneurs touch the souls of their readers and clients so they can increase their impact and their income. If you’d like to have her write for you, please visit her Hire Me page for more information. You can also find her on Facebook Sheri Levenstein-Conaway Author or in her new group, Putting Your Whole Heart Forward

Subliminal Mind Control, One News Story at a Time

Is The Media Using Subliminal Mind-Control? recent conversation with a friend caused a thought I’d been chewing on for a while to resurface. She said her husband went to bed at 8:00 every night, then lay there watching Fox News for hours. She even went so far as to say his addiction and immovable adherence to what he saw and heard had caused him to change. He was no longer the man she’d married. Not that she didn’t still love him, but I could tell the changes were worrisome, especially to someone who, like me has a tendency to do her own fact-checking rather than accepting what she’s told.

I’d think it would be especially difficult for a life-long liberal to see her once like-minded mate becoming a close-minded conservative following the party line blindly. Which brings me to my concern.

Subliminal messaging has been used in the media for decades. I remember seeing “The Exorcist” for the second time and making a point of watching for the messages embedded in a series of frames too short for the human eye to recognize and categorize. Let me tell you, those quick flashes of skulls and other terrifying images made the movie a thousand times scarier than the first time I saw it!

Advertisers use it too. Sometimes it’s blatant, but other times, so subtle, your mind reacts without question because the message flashes by too quickly to process. So why not news stations as well? What better way to control the minds and thoughts of a population than to bombard them with tiny subliminal thoughts telling them to think and act a certain way?

What’s in a Word?

By definition, subliminal means:



  1. Below the threshold of conscious perception. Used of stimuli.

  2. Inadequate to produce conscious awareness but able to evoke a response: subliminal propaganda.

Merriam-Webster offers a medical definition as well, which perhaps feeds more closely into what I’m imagining:

1 : inadequate to produce a sensation or a perception

2 : existing or functioning below the threshold of consciousness

We Learn by Repetition or Frequent Exposure

Subliminal messages are often repeated to further solidify them in the minds of the target audience. Yet, as I mentioned in the “Exorcist” example, they can be perceived if you focus and watch for them to appear. The technique has been used in advertising fairly frequently, so I see no reason to assume it hasn’t been tested and used on large populations for purposes other than commerce.

I know. I’m drifting dangerously close to conspiracy theory again. Yet, I have to wonder how so many seemingly logical, rational, kind people are being convinced to hate people they’ve never even met; to blame an entire cultural group for their less-than-perfect lives, and even, to see their lives as less than perfect in the first place! The words I’ve heard coming out of the mouths of some of the most intelligent, successful people I know in the last few years are downright disturbing.

How Can So Many Justify Such Heinous Behavior?

The stories they tell and the actions they justify would make any rational person person tilt their head in vain effort to make sense of the spate of inconsistencies. Yet words straight out of Fox News (and other dubiously reputable sources) fall off their tongues like raindrops in a hurricane. No wonder the Empaths and HSP’s are having such a tough time these days. We’re caught in a shit storm of irrationality, hate, and propaganda.

Under ordinary circumstances, I’d take the time to prove or disprove my hypothesis, but doing so would require watching those news broadcasts and focusing in, not on the words spoken, but the underlying messages. In this case, I’m not sure I’d escape with my sanity intact. There’s a lot more at stake for the alleged perpetrators than a few scary moments for theater-goers.

Reality Mimics Decades-Old Sci-Fi my thoughts are provable, imagine the implications. I’m thinking it might be a good time to re-read George Orwell’s “1984” assuming I can find my copy in the chaos that is my personal library. It wouldn’t be the first time one of the Science Fiction writers of the early to mid-20th century was spot on with their predictions, even if the timeline wasn’t precise.

Read some old Dick Tracy strips, then look at the smart watch on your arm. Watch a shuttle launch, or pull a recently heated meal out of the microwave. And remember when we’d joke about video phones and how we wouldn’t want one as we might accidentally answer in our underwear?

Think how much easier it would have been for Hitler to mesmerize an audience if he’d had subliminal messaging and the media at his disposal. Or look at how many people you’ve unfollowed or unfriended on Social Media in the last couple of years because the words they type are so ugly and hateful from your perspective, of course. I know I’ve been unfriended or unfollowed for sharing my views on what to me were less volatile topics than what people share nowadays. In my opinion, their opinions on such topics are heavily influenced by their choice in media source.

Striking Where We’re Unaware

The very fact that subliminal messages operate “below the threshold of consciousness” is, at the very, worrisome. That someone could, in essence, plant seeds in other people’s brains without their knowledge or consent has frightening implications and ramifications. If nothing else, it is indeed a form of mass hypnosis; in other words, mind control.

The fact that so many are accepting what they’re told as gospel instead of investigating the facts themselves lends itself to my diagnosis of a cancer invading the land. Admittedly, it takes time and even the best researchers can’t possibly investigate all of the “facts” with which we’re bombarded on a daily basis. Those of us who do choose to look into what we see and hear tend to have multiple sources which simplify our search to some degree. We also pick and choose which topics we look into, and as such, probably miss quite a few, and accept more than we should without verification.

A Culture of Blind Acceptance is Born

Nevertheless, questioning some of what we’re told is better than questioning none. Having a skeptical mindset probably gives us a bit of an edge on even the things we accept, if only because, in our questioning minds, nothing is gospel. Everything we see, hear, say, and do has an element of subjectivity. Every one of us sees things from our own point of view, heavily influenced by our own experiences, lifestyle, upbringing, and culture. An anthropologist or psychologist would probably add a few more factors to this list, but the ones I’ve listed are enough to skew how I see something vs. how anyone else sees it enough to allow for drastic differences in our conclusions.

I can’t help but wonder how quickly blind obedience follows on the heels of blind acceptance.

Check the Facts…If You Dare

Since I encourage fact-checking and questioning what we’re told, in light of the suppositions included in this post, I’ll share a few of my sources with you, in case you’d like to check a few facts yourself:

Snopes was the first site I ever used to check emails and posts for validity. At one point, I was rather impressed when I found an answer to the reporting of an event which was less than 24 hours old. I’ve used this one a few times in recent months. They’re a good source for political shenanigans.

Politifact is known for it’s Truth-o-meter which it applies to statements made by politicians. I’ve found a few surprises here.

Media Bias/Fact Check offers up a list of reputable fact-checking sources. Those referenced above are all on their list.

I encourage everyone to be their own advocate. These sites and more like them make the job a lot easier. But having a network of friends and acquaintances who is doing their best to abstain from media bias, and shares what they’ve learned is essential if you’re going to get a handle on the endless stream of gobbledygook we’re subjected to every day.

Grateful for A Questioning Mindset

My gratitudes today are:

  1. I am grateful for resources which help me navigate a world filled with lies and self-serving, power hungry mad men.
  2. I am grateful for a questioning mind and an endless thirst for knowledge.
  3. I am grateful for a platform which allows me to show others how to question instead of accepting blindly.
  4. I’m grateful I’m neither a sheep nor a lemming (despite what the Chinese calendar might say about my date of birth).
  5. I’m grateful for abundance; intelligent friends, opposing opinions, multiple sources, endless opportunities, a constantly increasing supply of brain cells (thanks to dancing), dancing, friendship, love, support, education, inspiration, motivation, peace, health, harmony, philanthropy, and prosperity.

Love and Light


About the Author

Sheri Conaway is a writer, blogger, Virtual Assistant and advocate for cats. Sheri believes in the Laws of Attraction, but only if you are a participant rather than just an observer. She specializes in creating content that helps entrepreneurs touch the souls of their readers and clients so they can increase their impact and their income. If you’d like to have her write for you, please visit her Hire Me page for more information. You can also find her on Facebook Sheri Levenstein-Conaway Author




Getting Back to Our Passion

From Sound Bite to Epiphany

I caught a sound bite while at the gym and it got me thinking. It said a lot of the chaos being caused in places like NATO, G7, and other high profile political arenas is solely for the purpose of generating anger and divisiveness. I can’t say the news surprises me as I’ve said the same thing so often it’s becoming almost redundant. anger, pitting people against each other, and glorifying hate feeds the bullies, the ogres, and the demons who have been released upon our world to run amok unchecked. The sole purpose of this feeding frenzy of greed and hate is to allow the soulless, heartless minority to steal everything we hold dear while we’re too wrapped up in being angry to appreciate and protect our inalienable rights. To me the most important of those rights are the right to love and be loved, the right to treat others with kindness and receive the same, and the right to join together in communities working towards common goals for the greater good.

Bringing Idealism Back Into Fashion

This may make me sound like an idealist and in many ways I probably am. Yet I have faith we can create the world I’m not alone in envisioning where we can have different beliefs and still come together in a single cohesive, productive unit. A community which understands different opinions make us stronger because they encourage us to look at our world from alternate points of view without treating disagreement like a personal affront.

I believe we can and will turn our world around and bring people together. We’ll return to a place where freedom of religion, and liberty for all once again actually means something. Where people no longer need a designated scapegoat to excuse their own unwillingness to put forth the effort to achieve their own goals and dreams but instead ask for help from others regardless of heritage, beliefs, religion, race, or sexual preference. Most important is getting back to where we understand, believe and act on the truism that the community is stronger which takes care of its own. In other words, where helping each other is part of our nature and not an obligation.


John Lennon envisioned such a world decades ago when he wrote his song, “Imagine”. That world may have come to pass in his lifetime but I believe the seeds were sown long ago. We need to nurture and cultivate those seeds. The more of us who choose to nourish the crop, the more abundant it will become. There will come a point where our fields of love, kindness, and acceptance will be sufficient to choke out the weeds of hate, greed, and divisiveness. In my mind, that’s the love people like Dr Martin Luther King tried to tell us would overcome the evil and hatred running rampant in our world. Many have lost faith in his timeless words, but the few who keep it alive are stronger than they might think.

The interesting thing about feeding the love seeds is not only do you feel good when you do it, you don’t need constant infusions to maintain the level of intensity you reach. In fact, unlike hate which only grows stronger with regular infusions of pain, love grows stronger the more you give of yourself for the benefit of others. Even better, the well of love is infinite. It never runs dry.

Fake News Creates Fake Hate

The artificially instilled anger being poured into the world right now is continuously depleted and can find more fuel in the pain and suffering of someone—a whole lot of someones. Right now, we are all “someone”. We are the pool from which those who feed on pain, suffering, hate, and anger will draw. We alone have the power to stop being used as fuel for a machine which operates in the best interests of only a select few who care nothing for the well-being of the world as a whole or the people in it.

It starts with a pebble in the pond of humanity. The pebble creates ripples which meet ripples created by other pebbles tossed into the pond. As more pebbles are tossed and more ripples created, connections form and the potential for a global support system becomes, not an impossible dream, but the reality we all deserve. But it won’t come by pointing fingers or blaming others for our imperfect lives. It will only happen when we realize we are the pebbles creating those ripples and make a conscious choice to fill our ripples with love instead of hate. We have to lose the destructive us-them mentality and realize we have the potential to be one global community where we give of ourselves unselfishly and receive what we need with gratitude.

Making the Dreamers’ Dreams a Reality

If you ask me, we owe it to the dreamers like John Lennon and Dr. King to turn their dreams into reality. It starts with a single person; a single act. Holding a door for another person, letting a car merge in front of you on the freeway, speaking out when you see someone being mistreated, rescuing an animal, listening to a friend, or smiling at a stranger. What I’m saying is making those dreams reality starts with caring.

For me that means redoubling my efforts to reach out to people who have been impacted by suicide or suicidal thoughts, depression, or mental health. I’m learning something really incredible; something I’d have deemed impossible even a few months ago. Hold onto your hat, because I’m going to share what for me at least was a HUGE epiphany.

Passion: The Strongest Catalyst We Have

When you discover your passion, the thing that makes you light up like the Aurora Borealis just thinking about it, and as brightly as the mid-day sun when you start talking about it, people who will either enhance or benefit from that passion will appear in your life almost magically.

You heard me right (or rather, “read” since I’ve yet to move from blog to vlog). Passion is one of the most attractive forces in the Universe, for both definitions of “attractive”. Feeling and expressing that passion is akin to becoming the most powerful magnet imaginable. But the glow you engage when you bring your passion out to play brings out the passion in others as well. If you ask me there is nothing more beautiful than people and their passions coming together to create a world of love and cooperation.

What makes you light up brighter than the sun? How can I help you turn your spark into a blazing fire that encompasses all humanity? It all begins by tossing the first pebble into humanity’s pond.

Fueled by Gratitude

My gratitudes today are:

  1. I am grateful for the amazing, inspirational people who have not only come before me, but the ones who are in my life right now, inspiring, encouraging, and occasionally butt kicking.
  2. I am grateful for the virtual flood of ideas I’ve been getting this week.
  3. I am grateful for blocks I’m discovering and learning how to release them, not just for the moment, but forever.
  4. I am grateful for the opportunity to help others and the inspiration to find ways to do just that.
  5. I am grateful for abundance; inspiration, motivation, brilliant people, warm friendships, encouragement, opportunities to leave my comfort zone further behind, love, peace, joy, harmony, health, philanthropy, and prosperity.

Love and Light


About the Author

Sheri Conaway is a writer, blogger, Virtual Assistant and advocate for cats. Sheri believes in the Laws of Attraction, but only if you are a participant rather than just an observer. She specializes in creating content that helps entrepreneurs touch the souls of their readers and clients so they can increase their impact and their income. If you’d like to have her write for you, please visit her Hire Me page for more information. You can also find her on Facebook Sheri Levenstein-Conaway Author

The Enemy Within

Making Enemies Out of Innocents of the time I avoid the news, not only because 90% of it is fake these days, but because the majority of it is hate driven. Even worse, the masses are encouraged to find someone to blame for the lies they ingest like candy corn.

This group is taking your jobs. That group is defiling your daughters. Another group is, oh, I don’t know—devil worshipers. What it boils down to is people believing any lie they’re told as long as they don’t have to take any responsibility on themselves. What I see from where I sit, as distanced as possible from the insanity overtaking not just our country, but our world, is there are only two real enemies: the one who is fabricating the hate and blame, and those who believe it and find in their hearts, only room for more hate and blame. And the worst part is, the second group is utterly clueless about how they’re succumbing willingly to blatant manipulation by the first.

At one time or another, most of us find a reason to blame outside sources for our inability to achieve what we think we should, or have what we believe we ought. It’s easier to convince ourselves someone or something cheated us out of what we deserve than to recognize the obvious; we are responsible for our own destiny.

Hate: Learned or Innate? can argue with me if you want to, but I don’t believe hate is a natural part of the human condition. It is a demon conjured by those who wish to gain power and have no morals about how they’ll accomplish their goals. It’s a tool, but once the demon is released, it runs rampant and is nearly impossible to capture and subdue.

Many before me who were wiser and more influential insisted the only way to tame that demon was with love. Naive as it might sound, I agree. Before you laugh me out of the room, or denounce me as a fool, hear me out.

If you pour gasoline on a fire, what happens? The fire grows. So it would follow that if you pour hate on an already hate fueled issue, you’ll only cause the hate to grow as well.

There are marchers and counter-marchers, each spewing their impassioned slogans and buzz words at each other. Each side rises to the occasion in self-righteous indignation, and before long, the fire of hate burns brightly on both sides. What have we accomplished?

Is Peaceful Coexistence an Impossible Dream?

Under present conditions, it’s probably pie in the sky to think we might come together and formulate a peaceful and universally fair solution to all the hate and lies and ugliness that’s turning people against each other needlessly. In the midst of all the rhetoric and pot stirring, I’m asking the same question we’re encouraged to ask when someone asks “why?”. I really want to know, “why not?”.

Why not let the politicians and the power mongers duke it out on the world stage while we gather quietly in the shadows and find ways to counteract the hate and misery. What is stopping us from excusing ourselves from the collective insanity to work on ways we can work together? And why can’t we respond to the incessant call to hate with waves of love, compassion, and respect?

Fact Checking is Everyone’s Responsibility

In an age where information is available with a couple of clicks of a mouse or a few keystrokes, we have we need to cut through the rhetoric, separate the wheat from the chaff, and more importantly, filter at least some of the lies out in our search for the truth.

Taking it a step or five further, regardless of what we find, there will always be those who refute what we believe is the truth. That’s OK, as long as it’s a discussion and not an argument. We are all better for taking the time to understand a point of view that differs from our own. It’s an opportunity to learn and even to question what we believe is true. How did we arrive at our conclusions? What facts are we using? What sources provided those facts? What are the agendas of our sources? Can they truly be trusted to give us the truth, the whole truth, and nothing but the truth?

Philosophical Truth vs. The Truth of Hidden Agendas

Philosophically speaking something cannot be both the truth and a lie. But politics, power, and greed make their own rules. The one they all worship as if it were a god is “truth is in the eye of the beholder”. They take the responsibility of making their version of truth appear in more eyes than the other guy very seriously. If we dissect everything they tell us, it becomes the old joke: “How do you know a politician is lying? His lips are moving.” Or in today’s environment, we could say it shows up on Twitter.

I understand people believe the ones they’re taught to believe without question, no matter what inconceivable crap might spew from their mouths. There are still some of us who were taught to dig into what we’re told and look for holes in the logic. But doing so takes time and effort. We can’t be on top of every single issue. Just getting past the  ever-expanding smoke screens takes more time, effort, patience, and persistence than most people are willing to expend.

To Feed or Not to Feed the Real Enemy to Us All

We can, however, pick and choose our issues. I, for one have a tendency to avoid the ones which are garnering the most attention. Why? Because it’s the diversion in the sleight of hand trick. They are the hot buttons guaranteed to trigger massive emotional reactions and outbursts, thus feeding the never-satiated beast of hate, a beast I’ve chosen not to feed.

I admit, refraining from generating emotional fodder is difficult in the best of times. The littlest things like mentally judging a person or an act is sufficient to bring negative emotions to the forefront. I’m challenged every day to think only kind thoughts of my fellow humans, to avoid words like “stupid”, and “idiotic” when I see someone acting inconsiderately (yet another judgement, I know). It’s difficult, but not impossible to refrain from taking the words and acts of others personally, when, on a conscious level, we know nothing really is.

Humans Are Basically Kind-Hearted

Normally, people don’t speak or act from a place of intentional hurt. They don’t normally plan to say or do things which cause pain to others, and certainly not to someone they don’t really know. But when we react as if they did, we feed their own pain, and soon have a conflagration of anger, but more, of pain.

Now, as much as the beast loves hate, it loves pain even more. The more pain it can cause, the bigger it grows. Whether it’s immigrant children separated from their parents, Muslims blamed for no concrete reason, or someone beaten because someone else’s lives matter, you can bet there will be a feeding frenzy in the opulent abodes of the greedy and powerful.

Stop Playing the Blame Game

We can fix this, though. It starts with putting aside the blame. It continues when we reach out and listen when people with opposing views explain their position, and when we do so without judgement, without a need to convince or turn.

I responded to a post asking if the word “God” should be left in the Pledge of Allegiance. My response was that it should not, and that it was not in the original anyway, but had been added in the ’50’s. One man responded rather violently, saying it should have been there in the first place, and went on to tell me about his military career and how he fought for “God and Country”. I told him I respected his opinion, and was grateful for his service, but asked that he respect mine as well.

That’s really all I’m saying here. We all have opinions. Sometimes they’ll mesh and sometimes they won’t. But hating someone because they have a different opinion is silly, and worse, it breaks down any hope of communication or learning. I guarantee the person you’re hating because of one difference in opinion, has at least a dozen opinions you share. When you shut down over one thing, you cheat yourself of so much more.

Putting This Topic to Rest—For Now

I’m going to get off my soapbox for now, but hope you’ll have reason to think about what I’ve said. I don’t expect you to agree with everything I’ve said, and I value your comments. I always appreciate the opportunity to learn something new, or see things from a different angle. But I will not tolerate disrespect, for me or for anyone else who responds to this post. If nothing else, look at your own inner child and before you speak, ask if you’d use those words when speaking to the child.

Feeling Grateful Every Day

My gratitudes today are:

  1. I am grateful I’m able to continue to do my own housework. I’ve known far too many who lose that ability way too young.
  2. I am grateful for my cats who’ve been especially attentive lately. They often know I’m struggling before I know myself.
  3. I am grateful for my daughter who’s persistence, tenacity, and uber-organization inspire me to do better myself.
  4. I am grateful for dancing. Even on a night when I’m feeling disconnected, I still am better for getting out and moving, for exchanging hugs with my friends, and for reaching out to someone new.
  5. I am grateful for abundance; ideas, inspiration, motivation, energy, strength, health, peace, harmony, philanthropy, and prosperity.

Love and Light



About the Author

Sheri Conaway is a writer, blogger, Virtual Assistant and advocate for cats. Sheri believes in the Laws of Attraction, but only if you are a participant rather than just an observer. She specializes in creating content that helps entrepreneurs touch the souls of their readers and clients so they can increase their impact and their income. If you’d like to have her write for you, please visit her Hire Me page for more information. You can also find her on Facebook Sheri Levenstein-Conaway Author

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