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Inboxer Rebellion Part Something-or-Other

Taking Inbox Sales to a New Level

inbox zeroWith increasing frequency, not to mention volume, I’m seeing the inboxes on all my email accounts filled with exhortations, and sometimes even pleas to part with my own dwindling cache of cash. Some are open and honest about it while others….aren’t.

I don’t really mind the ones from places like Kohl’s, Costco, World Market, Coffee Bean and Tea Leaf, or even Groupon. Many have been forced to temporarily close their doors leaving stock on the shelves that was ordered months ago and may or may not be seasonal. Those who are still open see less traffic, and people who do come to shop head for the necessities first, and the luxuries second, if at all. There too, much of what’s on display is either seasonal, or will soon be obsolete.

Though some of this type still use tactics like “best sale of the season”, or “last chance”, or “special purchase”, they’re basically open about what they’re asking of me, and absent of any subtle or outright yank of my emotional chain. They’re simply trying to move the merchandise they might have committed to a season or two ago.

The Ugly Side of Marketing 101

The ones that have begun to get on my nerves are the subtler ones who are selling a product or service that, in my mind anyway never was, and never will be essential. Many are using tactics I’ve always considered repellent. Things like:

  • You should be downright grateful I’m offering you a few kernels of my wisdom for free
  • If you don’t respond favorably (e.g. send me lots of money) I’ll assume you hate money (and this is often said in a disparaging manner)
  • You’re a fool if you don’t make a monetary investment in yourself right now
  • You’re a lazy dullard if you don’t take advantage of my offer
  • Look at how many people are sending me lots of money for my wisdom right now (insert testimonials here). Why aren’t you jumping on my bandwagon?

This is only a sampling (and of course, my interpretation) of what’s filling my inboxes every day. Of course, I have the right to both delete the emails and opt out, and have done so in quite a few cases. Still, there are a few relationships I’m not quite ready to kill yet. Maybe I’m still giving some the benefit of the doubt that this is a minor deviation before they go back to the honest and upright citizens I believed them to be when I joined their email list or community in the first place.

The last on on the above list takes me back to my college years and Marketing 101. “Jump on the Bandwagon” was one of the oldest arrows in a marketer’s quiver, and one that will always push me away rather than get me to buy. If nothing else, I’m nobody’s lemming, and especially when my money is involved. I’m especially intolerant of those who think they have the right to tell me how and where to spend it.

Doing My Due Diligence

I’m the type who, when faced with a new level of expertise will hang around for awhile, watching and listening. If I see some value in what’s offered, I may dip my toe in the water (read: purchase one of their less pricey options). I may even, after watching and listening some more, invest a little more time and money to see if what they offer is a good fit for me.

I will, however, either backpedal quickly, or run the other way if their behavior starts smelling like the old hard sell, or worse, a bait and switch. I’ll admit, I’m naive in a lot of ways, and may be convinced to part with a few hundred dollars by some of the sneakier sales hawks. But when I have to follow a series of links in order to:

A. Get real information about what they’re offering

B. Learn what their offering will cost me (which is usually several thousand dollars at a minimum)

C. Get only a vague idea of whether or not it will even work for me

D. See a series of entirely one-sided disclaimers

My spidey senses go on high alert, and even if it’s not a scam, I know there are hidden perils and pitfalls I’m best served in avoiding like (at the risk of saying this too soon) the plague!

A Protective Layer of Skepticism is Warranted

Whether rationally or not, my first thought is “this person is fleecing a lot of people who are too or ashamed to admit it”. Maybe they are, and maybe they truly are legitimate. The fact remains, they’re too rich for my blood. I’ve also spent too many years padding someone else’s retirement to fall victim to one that may not involve being at an employer’s beck and call, but yields the same results.

Despite my feelings right now, there are still a few I’ll continue to follow for reasons of my own. Perhaps I’m waiting for the truth to dawn, or maybe I’m attributing some of what to me, if not to them looks like a kind of Hail Mary play while the world, especially when it comes to commerce and finance, is in complete turmoil.

I know from my own experience things will ultimately shake themselves out, and the cream will rise to the top of the pan. Until then, I’ll keep watching and listening, but buying only what I need from purveyors of goods or services. If what’s offered fails to meet my own litmus test of necessary or not, I’ll let them continue to fill my inbox until such time as they either offer something I consider valuable and worthwhile, or they prove themselves beyond a shadow of a doubt to only be in it for their own personal gain.

As far as I’m concerned, deciding who can and cannot fill my inbox is another sort of decluttering, and is part and parcel of how I’m spending my time these days. Some days, I’m decluttering my mind. Sometimes, it’s a room in my house. When I get tired of some peoples’ tactics or claims, it’ll be my inbox. For those who don’t make the cut, it isn’t personal. We’re simply not a good fit anymore, if we ever were. It might have taken me longer to realize it in some cases. Some people are that good at masking their true purpose for awhile.

Gratitude Keeps Me Balanced

My gratitudes today are:

  1. I’m grateful for classes I took decades ago which have left a modicum of wisdom and knowledge behind.
  2. I’m grateful for opportunities to see different tactics in action.
  3. I’m grateful for the people who’ve allowed me into their communities to watch, learn, grow, and sometimes, leave.
  4. I’m grateful for pragmatism. There are few things I’ve done or places I’ve gone that didn’t give me something, even if it was only a lesson.
  5. I’m grateful for abundance; love, joy, friendship, inspiration, motivation, commitment, dedication, creativity, peace, hope, harmony, health, philanthropy, and prosperity.

Love and Light


About the Author

Sheri Conaway is a Holistic Ghostwriter, and an advocate for cats and mental health. Sheri believes in the Laws of Attraction, but only if you are a participant rather than just an observer. Her mission is to Make Vulnerable Beautiful and help entrepreneurs touch the souls of their readers and clients so they can increase their impact and their income. If you’d like to have her write for you, please visit her Hire Me page for more information. You can also find her on Facebook Sheri Levenstein-Conaway Author or in her new group, Putting Your Whole Heart Forward

Coronavirus: Another Diversion to Confuse the Masses

One New Diversion Can Ruin Your Day

Corona Virus DiversionLet me preface this by saying I’m not a conspiracy theorist, nor am I one to jump on a bandwagon of panic and insanity just because someone in a place of power thinks I should. I do my own research, and take reasonable precautions without going off the deep end.

The last few years (and maybe longer), I’ve grown more and more concerned by our government’s propensity for creating scares and catastrophes for the sole purpose of hiding their selfish acts which inevitably harm the general population. More often than not, they’re quick to point a finger at someone for the mess they’re blowing completely out of proportion.

This time, the culprit is the Chinese who, coincidentally, have not been as agreeable as the circus act in Washington might like. It makes me wonder, not if the news we’re getting from China is valid, but if what we’re allowed to see is accurate, or has been allowed to morph into something the Chinese people themselves might not even recognize by the power hungry and the media. If nothing else, the latest rush to stockpile, of all things, toilet paper cannot possibly be fueled by information that’s either accurate or realistic.

Apathy Abounds

Sadly, the general populace has proven themselves to be lemmings; easily led astray, to the joy apathyand profit of the unscrupulous striving for power and wealth regardless of who or what gets harmed in the process. If you ask me, they lack a conscience entirely given the perpetuation of abuse towards humans and our planet. We live in a world where hate crimes are condoned by our government, and laws enacted to protect our planet are being discarded right and left.

Having people get along, protecting earth, water, and air are neither profitable, nor do they allow individuals to gain power over the masses. Creating artificial excuses to pit people against each other, or cause laws protecting the environment to fall into disfavor are far more effective, and in the long run, cheaper to launch and maintain. Who cares if a bunch of peons kill each other off? What does it matter if the Earth is a barren wasteland incapable of supporting life in another 50 or 100 years? Those using the dysfunction to their advantage aren’t going to be around anyway.

I know I could do a better job of conserving resources, and am looking for ways to put my own money where my mouth is. But collectively, I think it has to start at a much lower level. The human race as a whole, and not just my fellow Americans needs to look at treating each other more kindly. We have to turn off the TV’s and loudly question those who seek to make us fearful and distrustful. What is the real reason behind the propaganda? What purpose is served by sending people into a panic over toilet paper? Who gains when we hate a country? An ethnic group? A culture?

We Need More Level Heads

I’m grateful there are some who don’t go into a panic every time the government and media conspire to confuse us. Is it a coincidence the latest widespread panic is occurring during the Presidential primaries? Timing is everything, and the more you confuse and divert the attention of the masses, the more you’ll get whatever it is you want. If they’re not paying attention, they won’t notice they’re being mislead or robbed blind.

Look at what our lovely legislators are enacting while our backs are turned.

  • Reduction in the EPA’s scope
  • Enactment of AB5 in California, and similar bills elsewhere limiting the ability and freedom of people to work for themselves, on their own terms, negotiating their own contracts.
  • Passing of HR 2474 the self-proclaimed “PRO bill” which is anything but, and further limits the freedom of freelancers and independent contractors.
  • More benefits for senators and congressmen to be paid out of coffers already strained to provide benefits many of us paid for with years of employment taxes and deductions.
  • Placing a complete incompetent in charge of the Corona Virus containment
  • Continued reduction in benefits for the poor and middle class to fund more for the rich and powerful

I could go on, but I think you get the picture. While everyone is busy trying to find the last package of toilet paper; the last bottle of hand sanitizer, another right or freedom is being stolen out from under us. Our tax dollars are going to pay for golf trips, decreased oversight where it’s truly needed, and my personal pet peeve, more support for Unions who are as self-serving and corrupt as any “elected” official.

Voting a Stacked Deck

Our elections are a farce. If you look beneath the surface, anyone who truly has a chance of being elected is lying through their teeth, and has no intention of helping anyone except their most prolific donors and their greedy selves. I’d venture to guess many are teetering on the edge of sanity, if they haven’t fallen over already; drunk on power and their own version of entitlement.

Long ago, I left anger behind. It’s been replaced by abject sadness at what we’ve allowed to happen through our apathy and willingness to believe what we’re told instead of doing our own research. Those in power count on laziness. It takes time and effort to do our own fact checking. It takes desire and commitment to join with others who refuse to buy into the culture of lies. And like everyone else, I am swayed by issues which directly affect me.

Again, the rich and powerful who want to keep what they have and acquire still more are hard at work looking for issues that will distract everyone. What distracts me might not even register on your radar, but you can be sure there’s something that does; and which has already pulled your attention away from the real issues at hand.

Being Open to a Wider Range of Concerns’m not saying ignore the things which resonate with you. I’m saying pay attention. Educate yourself. Speak out when and where it’ll be most effective, but don’t ignore the sleight of hand game being played. Keep your eyes and ears open and your back to the wall so you have a clear view of the entire room, and not just the small area you think affects you.

Do your due diligence. Join groups which disseminate information, but don’t take the information they offer as gospel. Read articles from all sides of the issue to see where they actually agree. In my own research, I’ve found areas of agreement even in the extreme sides of a topic. Facts can by buried, but not completely hidden. They can be twisted, but with a little effort, can be reworked back to their original configuration.

Some of my more activistic friends see me as unaware, or with my head in the sand. Until recently, I simply kept my thoughts to myself. But I’m a few manufactured crises past overload on my bullshit meter. Enough is enough. There’s a time to think with the brain and a time to think with the gut. Now is the time to engage the brain. When used properly, it’s less easily swayed than our emotions. Unless we do, our kids are right. We’re leaving them a fine mess of a world. We may not be fully responsible for creating it, but we haven’t done as much as we should to stop the boulder from rolling downhill.

Showing Gratitude Attracts More to be Grateful For

My gratitudes today are:

  1. I’m grateful I’m not rushing out to buy “untainted” toilet paper.
  2. I’m grateful I learned from a young age how to wash my hands.
  3. I’m grateful for a large complement of rational, thinking friends.
  4. I’m grateful for a world in which I can still express my opinions, even when they aren’t the popular pablum we’ve been served up in the last few years.
  5. I’m grateful I’ve learned to embrace compassion and kindness. I’m still learning, and at times, need to be reminded, but I’m a lot happier within myself when I carry more love and less hate in my heart.
  6. I’m grateful for abundance; love, compassion, forgiveness, intelligence, friendship, peace, harmony, health, balance, objectivity, questioning, philanthropy, and prosperity.

Love and Light


About the Author

Sheri Conaway is a Holistic Ghostwriter, and an advocate for cats and mental health. Sheri believes in the Laws of Attraction, but only if you are a participant rather than just an observer. Her mission is to Make Vulnerable Beautiful and help entrepreneurs touch the souls of their readers and clients so they can increase their impact and their income. If you’d like to have her write for you, please visit her Hire Me page for more information. You can also find her on Facebook Sheri Levenstein-Conaway Author or in her new group, Putting Your Whole Heart Forward

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