Dancing outside my comfort zone

I am blessed with some amazing, inspirational friends who are an endless source of positive energy.  But I am well aware that maintaining that positive outlook is like a relationship, it requires constant attention and effort.

To that end, I share this quote which was posted by one of those friends today.  A friend who, I know, has faced her own personal challenges and has triumphed because, no matter what life throws at her, she never gives up!  And in not giving up, she has attracted things which help her along the way, whether it is moral support, an extra dose of strength, encouragement, a caring family who recognized that all she needed was a leg up and she would do the rest. 

And she is truly right where she needs to be, doing what she loves, enjoying every moment with a child like wonder.  She is herself, completely, gloriously and unashamedly and the more I get to know her, the more blessed I know I am to have her in my life.

The fact is, we all have the potential to be like her, but we tend to close up when a choice we make doesn’t turn out perfectly.  We take fewer chances because we’re afraid of making mistakes.  But as I see it, there are no mistakes.  The choices we make which don’t turn out as we’d planned are there for a reason. 

It may be that we weren’t really ready for the perceived success of our plans yet.  It may be that there were a few more twists in our road and lessons to be learned before we could truly benefit from the outcome we envisioned.  Or it could be that the outcome we envisioned wasn’t really in our best interests, and we needed to stumble, maybe even fall, and pick ourselves up again a few more times before we had a clearer picture of where we needed to go. 
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But whatever the reason for a choice gone “wrong”, the real key is to continue making those choices, learning from the outcomes, making new choices with the wisdom we’ve gained, and moving forward on our path.  And above all, remember that there are no wrong choices.  Each one we make and the resulting outcome are there for a reason.  Despite how it may look, each one brings us closer to our goal, to our destiny, our passion, our dream. 

Before we could run we had to learn to walk.  Before we could speak, we had to become familiar with how the language sounded.  How can we expect to achieve our dreams until we do the legwork first?    Or, like a business, you can’t expect to be successful until you’ve learned how to run the business, the rules, the opportunities, the risks and how to measure your risks and put things in place to mitigate those risks.  You don’t just launch a new product without, at the very least, finding out if anyone else is already selling it.  You don’t take on a $100,000 a week payroll without the means to pay your employees even if your customers are paying slowly. 

Even with the best of preparations, though, you’re going to encounter unexpected challenges.  You can’t plan for every possible outcome because too many factors are out of your control.

So what do you do?  You build your network of friends, family and even acquaintances.  You learn from all of them.  Each one, even the ones you disagree with on some level, have something to teach you.  But even more important, you learn how to look at a seemingly unwanted outcome and, instead of seeing a failure, you look for the opportunity, the lesson..the phoenix rising from the ashes. 

Like the phoenix, you find the strength within yourself and draw some from those around you.  You take what you have learned and burn away all of the excess, the frustration, the pain, feelings of failure, and you come back leaner, stronger, smarter and better knowing that with each step back, you’ve taken ten steps forward and that, ultimately, whether it feels that way or not, you truly are closer to your goal than you were before. 

Although my day is not finished, and my normal practice is to post late at night, I’m feeling like I’ve said what I needed to here, so I’m going to end with my gratitudes and post this early.  Should additional inspiration hit before the day ends, I will likely just post again.

My gratitudes are:

1. I am grateful for the inspiration and energy my friends offer.
2. I am grateful for open windows.
3. I am grateful for unending possibilities and magic.
4. I am grateful for keeping up with my workout goals.
5. I am grateful for the way my world is expanding and I’m learning from more and more people in completely different situations.

Love and light.

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Comments on: "May 17, 2013 The Blessing of Friendship" (2)

  1. Such a uplifting post! I think friendships really make a life happier and a person stronger. I keep a gratitude journal that I learned from the Oprah show years ago. It helped me so much through my late hubby's illness and helped me focus on “good” in my life when I lost him. Some days are easier than others to be “thankful” but I try even on the rough days to find at least one thing to be grateful for and most often it is my friends.

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  2. Winnie, thank you for your kind words. I am so sorry for your loss, but glad that you have been able to find at least one thing to be grateful for through it all. I've found, even on the worst days, if I make one of the gratitudes something a little humorous, that helps as well. (e.g. I'm so grateful that I didn't trip over anything today (I'm rather klutzy!)) You'd be surprised how all of those little things can add up. Try picking one of your minor foibles whether it be grace, forgetfulness or something like that. Best of luck to you in your healing process!

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